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25 Quotes to Encourage Relationships Among Older People

MsDora, former teacher and counselor, is fascinated by the prospect of joyful aging. She explores and shares habits of happy seniors.

Older people need people.

Older people need people.

Good relationships protect our bodies and our brains. This is the finding of The Harvard Study of Adult Development which has followed a group of 724 men in a longtitudinal study on aging, since 1938. In 2016, 60 of the men were still alive.

Robert Waldinger, director of the study in 2016, made the following observation in his TED talk:

"When we gathered together everything we knew about them at age 50, it wasn't their middle-age cholesterol levels that predicted how they were going to grow old, it was how satisfied they were in their relationships. The people who were the most satisfied in their relationships at age 50 were the healthiest at age 80."

Waldinger presented that people who are socially connected are happier, physically healthier, and live longer, whereas lonely people experience earlier decline in health and brain function. He concluded with Mark Twain's quote that "The good life is built with good relationships.”

The following quotes encourage friendships and socialization among older people, in an effort to help them live happy, healthy lives. Some quotes make us smile. Some make us think. All help us realize that older people need people.

General Insights

1. "I find friendship to be like wine. Raw when new. Ripened with age." ―Thomas Jefferson

2. "Say what you want about aging, it's still the only way to have old friends." ―Robert Brault

3. "After the age of eighty, all contemporaries are friends." ―Ninon de L'Enclos

4. "Among the worst things about growing old is the loss of those irreplaceable friends who added richness and depth to your life." ―Pat Conroy

5. "Friendship matters, especially in old age, when death reduces the number of one's friends." ―Marilyn Yalom

6. "Maybe older people should have our own social media… We can have our own … GNIB: Good news, it’s benign. OMG: Oh, my gout. DMMLIMNWD: Don’t make me laugh, I’m not wearing Depends.” ―Billy Crystal

7. "While the size of social networks shrink with age, the quality of the relationships improves." ―Robert M. Sapolsky

8. "All of us can take time to reach out to older neighbors, friends and relatives in safe ways as they try to avoid the coronavirus.” ―John Piette, Ph.D.

Maybe older people should have our own social media.

Maybe older people should have our own social media.

Social Benefits

9. "What though youth gave love and roses, age still leaves us friends and wine." —Thomas Moore

10. "To reminisce with my old friends, a chance to share some memories, and play our songs again." —Ricky Nelson

11. "The mere process of growing old together will make the slightest acquaintance seem a bosom friend." —Logan Pearsall Smith

12. "Old friends pass away, new friends appear… The important thing is to make it meaningful: a meaningful friend—or a meaningful day." —Dalai Lama

13. "Old friends are the great blessing of one's later years . . . They have a memory of the same events and have the same mode of thinking." —Horace Walpole

14. "Family members typically become caregivers for the elderly… While the relationships are still vital, they may not provide as much joy in an elderly person's life as long-term friends.” —William Chopik, Psychology Professor

15. Recommended for Seniors: "If the gym’s not your scene …take a dance class, go bowling, play golf – do something where you’re having a good time and engaging with others." —John Moore, DO

16. "As you get older, it’s important to take advantage of opportunities to meet people and develop relationships... Another good way to get connected is to find an organization you are passionate about and volunteer." —Heather Geller, Elder Care Alliance

17. "Friends influence your happiness and habits—whether you’ll smoke or drink, work out, stay thin or become obese… This works both ways—quarrels with friends are tied to chronic health problems… You may need to repair, or replace, friendships as you age." —Temma Ehrenfeld, Psychology Today

18. "If you live to be 100, I hope I live to be 100 minus 1 day, so I never have to live without you." —Winnie the Pooh

Good friendships can dispel loneliness.

Good friendships can dispel loneliness.

Physical and Emotional Benefits

19. "If you're in your sixties or beyond … good friendships can dispel loneliness, improve your health, boost your sense of well-being, and even add to your years." —Kathleen Doheny, Health Journalist

20. "Having a strong circle of friends can be a good boost for aging hearts and can help the body’s autoimmune system resist disease. People who have one or more good friends are in better health than those who have only casual friends or no friends." —Nina Chen, Ph.D

21. "By having close connections with others in your older years, you’ll be feeling less lonely and see significant benefits across your overall health." —Portland Nursing Home, UK

22. "People who are socially isolated and not stimulated are the ones who tend to have lower cognitive ability in old age." —Rosemary Blieszner, PhD

23. "As we age, we prune away at some of the friendships that are more superficial and acquaintance-like and are left with the ones that are deeper and make us happy." —William Chopik, Psychology Professor

24. "Patients … could have diabetes, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, congestive heart failure, or all three things, and still be doing better because of their improved mental health ... and their dedication to taking care of themselves so that they could continue their regular social activities.” —John Moore, DO

25. "As children, we used to laugh hundreds of times a day, but as adults, life tends to be more serious … But by seeking out more opportunities for humor and laughter, you can improve your emotional health, strengthen your relationships, find greater happiness—and even add years to your life." —HelpGuide

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Comments

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 06, 2021:

Thank you, Devika. Being one of the older people, I often think of ways to encourage us. We need it more now than ever. Thanks for your comment.

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 06, 2021:

MsDora these quotes are useful indeed! You thought of a great idea for the older people so much of this is needed in our lives. Most encouraging to all.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on October 01, 2021:

Li-Jen, thank you for reading and sharing. Also for your kind comment. I appreciate you.

Li-Jen Hew on October 01, 2021:

Thank you for this touching article. I enjoyed the quotes and I will share the article with someone who needs to know the health benefits of friendship.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 30, 2021:

Thanks, Mark. Glad you stopped by. I appreciate you.

Mark Tulin from Palm Springs, California on September 30, 2021:

Great collection, MsDora. I also like Dalai Lama's quote.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 29, 2021:

Dear Audrey, thanks for sharing. COVID gets in everybody's way right now, but at least, it makes us long for company. Enjoy your move, embrace the temporary loneliness, and expect that it will change. I hope soon.

Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on September 29, 2021:

I recently moved to a new state and for the first time in my life I can truly say "I get lonely." I need people. I've been an entertainer forever and people are my life-line.

With covid restrictions, even volunteering isn't available and my church is closed. So, your wonderful article holds great meaning for me. The quotes are marvelous.

Thank you.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 29, 2021:

Thanks, Brenda. Yes, Staying active helps to ward off many discomforts. The effort pays off.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 29, 2021:

Flourish, thanks for sharing about relationships among your older relatives. So sweet of you to keep up with your parents. I applaud your efforts to help them stay happy and healthy.

FlourishAnyway from USA on September 29, 2021:

This is wonderful. I really like those quotes. I watched my grandmother age (and pass away) and sometimes she would remark that she outlived all of her friends or that she was so lonely. In spite of having a large extended family, no one visited her much because she was not a pleasant person. She did have a former boyfriend from her youth who stopped by every now and then.

I live a mile from my parents and visit often, taking them food and talking with them, going on short outings with them, etc. so we keep life interesting. They've never had a lot of outside relationships. Just introverted.

BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on September 28, 2021:

Ms Dora

You always find some great quotes.

I love the one that means we should stay active.

If we can't go to a gym to di something else.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 28, 2021:

Thanks Jo. The TED talk is quite convincing. Gald you liked it.

Jo Miller from Tennessee on September 28, 2021:

Great article, Dora. Loved the TED talk toward the end.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 27, 2021:

Thanks, Peggy. Sure, humor is important. I remember reading that we need at least one belly laugh a day.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on September 27, 2021:

So many of our dear friends have already passed on to the next life. That is an inevitable part of aging. Friendships definitely enhance our lives and I enjoyed reading all of these quotes, especially the ones with humor. Keeping a sense of humor helps!

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 27, 2021:

You're welcome Linda. True also, that we're all getting older.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 27, 2021:

Denise, I agree. True, aging is easier to handle if we laugh when we look in the mirror.

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on September 27, 2021:

Thank you for collecting these quotes, Dora. They are important for all of us as we get older.

Denise McGill from Fresno CA on September 27, 2021:

I think the quote about laughing more is the best. We need to keep our sense of humor as we grow older. How else can we stand to look in the mirror?

Blessings,

Denise

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 27, 2021:

Thank you, Umesh. I appreciate your comment. Have a great week!

Umesh Chandra Bhatt from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India on September 27, 2021:

Nice compilation. Thanks.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 27, 2021:

Bill, I've heard that often, and it makes me smile. I imagine what you're feeling. Chances are that one will go first. Focus now on enjoying the companionship while you're both here.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 27, 2021:

Thanks, Pamela. I aim to please and I appreciate your encouragement.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 27, 2021:

You're welcome, John. I really believe that I'm benefiting from some good friendships as I age, thank God.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 27, 2021:

Rosina, it is my pleasure. The quote you choose is also one of my favorites. Whether there is one friend or a group of friends, what matters is that the friendship is genuine.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 27, 2021:

Thanks, Srushti. Sure, friendship must be meaningful if it will be beneficial. All, especially older people who find good friendship have something to celebrate.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 27, 2021:

Thanks, Chitrangada. I've heard from some elderly folk who change residence to be close to their relatives, and then move back because the relatives have not enough time to accommodate them. Oh yes, they need company.

Dora Weithers (author) from The Caribbean on September 27, 2021:

Thanks, Misbah. I'm drawn these days towards the business of happy, healthy aging. It makes me glad that younger people benefit from my findings.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on September 27, 2021:

My only real concern in life is that Bev would die before me. With any luck, that won't happen, and I will not have to start over in my seventies. I don't know if I'm up to that challenge. :) Thanks for sharing the inspiration.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on September 27, 2021:

I fully agree with your article, Ms Dora. I like all the quotes. I thought the Dalai Lama quote was good as we want meaningful friendships and a meaningful like,

I really like all the quotes. It was a pleasure to read your article.

John Hansen from Gondwana Land on September 27, 2021:

What great advice here MsDora. Yes, I agree friendship, laughter, and enjoying your life, especially as you age, keep you healthier. Thank you for sharing these great quotes.

Rosina S Khan on September 27, 2021:

This is a wonderful article about promoting relationships and social activities among older people. I enjoyed all the 25 quotes but I find quote No.20 the most alluring, which I show below:

20. "Having a strong circle of friends can be a good boost for aging hearts and can help the body’s autoimmune system resist disease. People who have one or more good friends are in better health than those who have only casual friends or no friends." —Nina Chen, Ph.D

Thank you for sharing this splendid hub, Dora.

Srushti Gamit on September 27, 2021:

What a wonderful collection of quotes Ms. Dora. I really like the one of Dalai Lama and Robert M. Sapolsky.

Thank you for sharing this interesting piece. I hope this can encourage and help people suffering from loneliness and seeking a friend.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on September 27, 2021:

A beautiful article and nice quotes to emphasize the need for friendship in elderly people.

As people get old, they get lonely. They need company, someone of their own age. Many of the close ones, or friends pass away. It's not always possible for the younger generation, to spend much time with the elderly, because of job and family responsibilities.

I liked all the quotes and thank you for drawing attention to this important matter. Have a good day!

Misbah Sheikh from The World of Poets on September 27, 2021:

Ms Dora, this is an excellent article. It's very thoughtful of you to create this lovely hub. Thank you for sharing these great and thought-provoking quotes with us. I loved it all. Have a fantastic week!!

Sending Blessings and Love to you!!

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