12 Steps to Recover From Traumatic Experiences
Understanding Trauma and Its Effects
Trauma describes emotionally painful experiences and situations that are overwhelming. This could result from events that cause physical, emotional, and psychological distress or harm such as: fighting in wars, accidents, rape, assaults/attacks, crime, natural disasters, and witnessing traumatic events.
Common physical and emotional reactions to such distressing events include:
- Shock or denial of events
- Anxiety, fear, and panic
- Insomnia or nightmares
- Re-experiencing the trauma through nightmares and flashbacks
- Loss of interest in previous activities
- Change in appetite
- Unpredictable emotions—easily angered or upset
- Edginess or agitation
- Withdrawing or isolating self
- Headaches, stomach aches, nausea
While people deal with trauma in different ways, these twelve suggestions can help you take steps to reduce the negative impact of the trauma on your life. You can become a resilient survivor and move forward, as you put the traumatic events behind you.
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1. Deal With the Emotional Pain
You might find the emotions resulting from the traumatic events overwhelming. It is important that you acknowledge these feelings, instead of trying to suppress your emotions, and the painful memories.
Take time to deal with the intense feelings you continue to experience. You might need to express emotions, such as sorrow or anger that you feel to someone who will give you the empathy and support you need.
Furthermore, if you experience persistent feelings of distress including symptoms of depression; feelings of hopelessness, or suicidal thoughts, it is critical that you seek professional help from a person who has experience in treating trauma.
Also, some experts explain that many trauma victims struggle with shame associated with their distressing experience. In the video below, Dr. Brené Brown, shame researcher, suggests that people who have experienced abuse and trauma reach out and tell their story. She points out that shame cannot survive when it's secrecy is removed and it is met with empathy.
Becoming a part of a support group beneficial as you connect with others with shared traumatic events. Involvement instills hope in your heart as you discover that you are not alone.
2. Talk About Your Experiences
You need to tell your story, but in telling your story, you decide what and how you want to tell it. Share your thoughts and feelings with people, for example, family members and friends, who care about you, and who will listen.
Sadness is one of the emotions that you could be experiencing, but take steps to return to your normal routine. When you talk about your experiences to empathic listeners, they won't mind when you describe what happened over and over. They understand that this is a part of your recovery process.
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3. Promote a Support Network
Getting the support of others will help you cope. Don't isolate yourself, but make connections and develop friendships that are mutually beneficial. Healthy relationships should be the basis of your support, where you can receive the help and encouragement you need.
4. Be Patient With Yourself
Your recovery will take time, so you give your time to grieve and mourn your loss. When you move through the grieving process, recognize that the emotional reaction to loss varies. So don't compare yourself with others, give yourself time to adjust, and move to recovery.
Just like there's always time for pain, there's always time for healing.— Jennifer Brown, Hate List
5. Re-establish Your Routine
After your traumatic experience, you are likely to find that you don't have the motivation you do many of the things that you enjoyed before. But take steps to keep your normal routine as much as possible.
These routines could serve to take your focus off the distressing experiences you had and assist you to move back into the flow of regular activities. Importantly, as you plan and complete meaningful activities each day, you experience more and more purpose in your life.
Start with activities that you enjoyed before the experience. While it might be difficult initially, with persistence, for example, continuing your daily walk, you could find that the enjoyment you once experienced returns.
6. Change Negative Self-Talk
Your thoughts affect the way you feel and act. When you experience traumatic events, common reactions to these events include intrusive thoughts and images.
These persistent could lead to you having a negative view of the world, as you experience problems trying to concentrate on activities that are important to your life. This means that you will need to take specific steps to replace self-defeating self-talk to more self-enhancing thinking.
You could, for example, find that you are telling yourself, "I will never be well again." You will need to challenge this thinking, and replace it something like, "While my life might not be the same as before my traumatic experience, I will adapt, grow, and thrive,"
Continue to challenge and replace self-defeating thinking that has no basis in reality. Then you will find that you feel better, your confidence improves, paving the way for you to bounce back from you distressing experiences.
7. Forgive the Perpetrator(s)
It could be that your traumatic experience was caused by the actions of others. You need to choose to forgive. This could take time for you to work through, but it is very important to let go of resentment and bitterness in order to move on.
It is essential to realize that forgiveness doesn't mean denying your feelings of sadness and anger, or condoning or excusing what happened. It is making a choice to let go and deciding that you will not allow the person to continue to victimize you.
When you forgive, you free yourself to recover and grow. In fact, research indicates that forgiveness leads to improved emotional and physical well-being.
“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different.”— Oprah Winfrey
8. Keep a Journal
You could find journaling your thoughts and feelings beneficial in your process of recovery. Start writing about specific aspects of your experience as they come to you, then describe how you are feeling about these experiences.
Journaling your thoughts over a period of time could help you make sense of what you experienced. Insights on your trauma could assist you to move closer to the closure necessary to bounce back from your traumatic experiences.
Being positive does not mean ignoring the negative. Being positive means overcoming the negative— Unknown
9. Maintain Your Spiritual Grounding
Your spiritual well-being is an important part of your overall contentment and even happiness. As you experience the physical and emotional reactions that result from the traumatic events, reach out and draw strength from God, whose resources are far greater than what you possess.
Through your faith in God, you can find meaning and a new perspective on life after the traumatic events you experienced. You can keep your faith in difficult times, and experience God’s empowering goodness for your recovery.
10. Practice Self-Care
Pay attention to your physical and emotional health, that is, see your self-care as a priority. Start establishing routines to take care of yourself. Eat balanced meals and be sure to include fruits and vegetables in your diet. Also, get adequate rest and sleep. You will find that sleep improves your concentration.
Keep physically active. This means engaging in physical activities even if you don't feel like doing so. Practice relaxation regularly, so that it becomes easy to do, and you can use it to help you manage your stress. Relaxation techniques can help you to cope with the tension and panic that come with the emotional reactions from the traumatic experience.
Listen to good soothing music to relax you, and ease any stress. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude. Even with your distressing experiences, there are still things you can be thankful for. Be open to learning new things, and continue to grow.
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Summary of the Trauma Recovery Process
Don't suppress your emotions, acknowledge them. You could need professional help.
This helps you to work through trauma.
Talk about your experience with people who will listen with empathy.
Helps in your recovery process.
Get support from others.
Caring individuals can help you cope.
Re-establish your routines
Routine gives a sense of purpose and takes your mind off distressing situations.
Change negative self-talk
Positive self-talk improves your emotions.
Forgive those cause you pain (where appropriate)
Forgiveness frees you to move forward
Nurture your emotional and physical well-being.
You are more resilient when you practice self-care.
Promote your spirituality - spend time in prayer and meditation.
You can draw strength and courage from God's great resources.
Use the tips in this hub to find ways to cope effectively.
Adjust to change, learn to adapt to changing realities.
11. Get Professional Help
You might need help from a qualified mental health professional, which could enable you to deal with the after-effects of the trauma you experienced. It is important that you get help if you are experiencing such symptoms as severe flashbacks, or if you are suffering from anxiety due to trauma.
A trained counselor could help you make sense of what happened to you and assist you to deal with the strong emotions you are experiencing. The treatment approach will depend on a number of factors including the type of trauma you experienced. One of the therapies used is cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) which could help you to change your thoughts and feelings about the trauma you experienced.
12. Bounce Back!
The resource, Reach in, Reach Out: Finding Your Resilience explains that having experienced traumatic events or other challenging situations, there are things that you cannot change. But you can adjust to these changes and move through tough times successfully.
While you may be still be affected by the trauma you experienced, you can recover from the setbacks by finding effective ways to cope. Practice building resilience by:
- Finding purpose in life
- Establishing your personal vision
- Cultivating self-awareness; know your strengths, limitations, and needs, reach out for help
- Practicing being flexible—then, it will be easier to adapt to changes in your life
- Developing problem-solving skills
Find the resilience in you to move forward after your traumatic experiences.
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References and Further Resources
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